COUN 6100A: Introduction to Mental Health Counseling Upgrade “Mental Health Counseling: Self-Care”
MATTHEW R. BUCKLEY: Often people get into this profession because they’ll say things like, oh, I’ve always been told I’m a great listener, and my friends always come to me and ask me for advice. And so that motivates people to come into this profession.
And it feels good to be needed, and it feels good to have people ask your advice, and sometimes what happens is that we think that we have to be everything to everybody, all the time. And what I have found in my many years of experience doing this, is that that can take a toll, if you feel like you have to be everything to everybody all the time, and have to be on all the time. And burnout is a real hazard in this profession.
And so one of the things that you’ll learn– not only in this class, but that you’ll learn throughout your program– is the importance of self-care and being able to take care of yourself.
JEANNIE FALKNER: You’ve really got to structure your time. You’ve got to say, this is when I’m going to work, this is what’s due, but you’ve got, somehow, to build in a little self-care time.
MATTHEW R. BUCKLEY: It’s not just about going on a walk or getting a massage, but it’s about developing a mindset that you need to carve out time in your day and your week and your month to really devote towards feeding yourself, and feeding your soul, and giving back to yourself, so that you can do this work. Because this work is very taxing emotionally.
JEANNIE FALKNER: One particular area that was just kind of funny– most counselors don’t talk about it– is financial wellness. We look at all areas of our life– our health, our relationships– and I’ll say, well, how do you incorporate financial wellness? And they go, what, money? Finances? I don’t talk about that. And I say, well, that’s one of your best resources for self-care.
And not only do we have to use that to plan for vacations, and sick days, and going to conferences, and maybe a manicure or pedicure every now and then, something special, but we have to teach our clients to do that. Particularly with the economic stresses that everybody is feeling, we have to teach our clients how to live a financially well life as one of their main resources.
And counselors are funny. We’ll talk about a lot of things, but we don’t like to talk about money. So being the type of person I am, that’s where we’re going to go. We’re going to talk about the taboo subjects, and one of them is money.
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MATTHEW R. BUCKLEY: I often refer to self-care as “perspective-taking,” so you can see yourself in the proper perspective when you’re working with your clients.
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