Birth by older parents with older siblings
Week 5 Assignment Outline
PART I: TIMELINE
1979: I was born into a family where both parents worked and siblings were much older than me.
1987: My brother got custody of my nephew because he was being abused with his mother but he came to stay with us and I was like a big sister.
1995: Realized that I am attracted more to the same sex.
1997: Start of my first same-sex relationship.
2004: First granddaughter in my family to graduate from college
2017: Experienced the death of my stepson, maternal grandmother, and my father in less than 6 months.
PART II: TIMELINE ANALYSIS
Major life events can differ depending on one’s feelings, experiences, and values. According to Erikson, the progress of lifespan is a lifelong development starting at birth through death and includes the configuration of identity (Broderick & Blewitt, 2015). Biological, environmental, and social influences can help shape a person’s identity. According to Erikson’s Psychosocial Developmental Theory, people are looking for a sense of identity throughout their lifespan, especially during their adolescent years (Kraus, 2008). The lifespan development theory identifies the way toward adjusting to continually changing impacts in our lives by development, support or flexibility, and the control of misfortune (Broderick & Blewitt, 2015). I will describe how the identified life events helped shaped me into the person I am today.
Life Event I: Birth by older parents with older siblings (1979)
Born to older parents with older siblings who were more like my parents
Influence on attachment
Attachment style was ambivalent (Bowlby, 1988)
Influence of absent parenting on development
Trust vs. Mistrust (Erikson) because my older siblings really took care of me
Experienced jealousy, lack of attention, and new role as “auntie/big sister”
Impact on cognitive and emotional functioning
Influence on development
Industry versus Inferiority (Erikson) believe the responsibility help shape me
Influence on social interaction
People expected me to be more girlie but I was still like a “tomboy”
Changed perception of how society treats people who are “different”
Life Event III: Realize I am more attracted to the same-sex (1995)
Experienced confusion, abandonment by peers, and insecurities
Impact on cognitive and emotional functioning
Influence of being attracted to the same-sex on my development
Identity vs. Role Confusion (Erikson) I want to be myself but I can’t
Influence of insecurities on my development
Life Event IV: First same-sex relationship (1997)
Left home at age 18 instead staying there and focus on school
Reasons for this decision and subsequent life changes
I felt I couldn’t be myself at home
I wanted to be closer to the person I loved
Impact on identity (Erikson)
Life Event V: First granddaughter to graduate college (2004)
Graduated from Baylor University with BA in Psychology
Influence on my life
Became more respected in my family
Long- and short-term impacts
Prioritizing family and work
Family life cycle theory
Life Event VI: Death of important people (2017)
Lost my stepson, my maternal grandmother, and my father
Being angry more angry
Having to move and plan funeral
Family not as close to each other
Not being able to focus like before and forgetting more
Major life events, such as birth, starting school, graduating high school, starting a relationship, ending a relationship, and the death those you love dearly, have an impact on one’s thoughts, feelings, societal, and mental development. Major life events include predicted and unpredicted, as well as, regular changes, major changes, and significant new experiences (Specht, Egloff, & Schmukle, 2011). The life events depicted thus far have impacted my character by being significant learning encounters for me. Because of my encounters I trust I have formed into a respectable and mindful grown-up that proceeds to add to my character. Identity is a person’s gathering of individual convictions, mentalities and wants (Broderick & Blewitt, 2015). For us as counselors, it is important to understand that these types of events can happen to at any time and it doesn’t discriminate. Counselors must keep in mind the mentality level of clients in order to help them to be successfully to everything that life tosses at them.
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